Dating Violence

Dating Violence

"Please realize that these things DO happen. You may think to yourself 'oh that will never be me' and then suddenly you find yourself in a bad relationship, and a scary situation."

Caity, survivor of a violent dating relationship

2017 Healthy Relationships Media Contest is all about Bystander Intervention!

A bystander is someone who witnesses another person or group being harmed or hurt verbally, physically, emotionally, or culturally. We have all been bystanders at some point in our lives. Bystander intervention is about being more than a witness to harm and violence. It is when someone takes action, or does something, to help someone else who they witness experiencing harm, violence, or need; someone can take action before, during, or after the harm or violence has happened.

Some examples of what someone might do to be an active bystander include: interrupting an argument between friends or partners; telling someone not to bully or criticize another person; supporting a friend who has experienced harm or violence; or getting help for someone who is being harmed or victimized. Your media pieces should show how and we can encourage and support bystander intervention to prevent harm and violence in our schools and communities.

Utah youth ages 11-18 are eligible to participate. Submissions are due by 5PM on Tuesday, February 28, 2017. All entries must be original work. Participants can choose to work individually or as a group in one of the 3 categories: Written Works (songwriting, poetry, short story, essays, etc.); Visual Arts (drawings, paintings, posters, photographs, etc.); or Film/Video (PSAs, music videos, documentary, etc.). Prizes will be awarded to the top entries in each category. Prizes will be Visa Giftcards!

Media Contest Flyer


Consent Form


All entries must be submitted with a consent form and uploaded/emailed/mailed/delivered to the contact person: Megan Waters,

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

This Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month media toolkit was created with community-based prevention professionals and organizations engaging in primary prevention in mind.  However, primary prevention concerns us all and if you are interested in sharing prevention messaging during the month of February, we encourage you to use this toolkit and add strength to our number of partners joining together on this effort.


Teen Dating Violence Data

The Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance Survey (YRBS) showed that in 2013, one in four (28%) high school students reported they were emotionally, verbally, physically, or sexually abused by a dating partner.

According to YRBS data, in 2013:

  • 22.7% of students reported being verbally or emotionally harmed one or more times by a dating partner. Females (19.2%) were more likely to report verbal and emotional abuse compared to males (11.7%).
  • 10.7% of students reported being forced to do sexual things they did not want to by a dating partner. Females (15.0%) were more likely to report sexual abuse compared to males (6.3%).
  • 6.9% of students reported being physically hurt on purpose one or more times by a dating partner.
  • 21.9% of students were bullied on school property and 16.8% were being electronically bullied.

What is Dating Violence?

Dating violence is verbal, emotional, physical, and/or sexual abuse in a dating relationship. A dating relationship is romantic or intimate in nature and not just a casual relationship.

What are the warning signs that someone is in a violent relationship?


  • Sudden changes in appearance
  • Avoids contact with family and friends
  • Spends all of free time with abuser
  • Cries a lot; moody
  • Is very stressed with physical symptoms
  • Sudden changes in behavior
  • Defends abuser and his/her actions


  • Sudden and drastic mood swings
  • Acts macho or cocky
  • Jealous and controlling
  • Cruelty to animals and/or children
  • History of battering
  • Constantly checking on partner
  • Blames others for his/her problems

If you or someone you love is in a violent relationship, call these FREE hotlines open 24 hours a day/7 days a week.

If you or someone you love is in a violent relationship, call these FREE hotlines open 24 hours a day/7 days a week.

Utah Domestic Violence Link Line
1-800-897-LINK (5465)
Rape & Sexual Assault Crisis Line

What can you do if you're in a violent dating relationship?

  • Decide that any abuse is too much
  • Tell someone you are being abused
  • Document your injuries
  • Call a local hotline for help
  • Fill out a personalized safety plan
  • Remember that it is NOT your fault you are being abused

How can you help a loved one who is in a violent dating relationship?

  • Learn all you can about abuse
  • Teach your loved one about abuse
  • Document the injuries you see
  • Call a local hotline for more resources
  • Listen to your loved one
  • Be patient!